“We are what we repeatedly do.
Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.” -Aristotle
You are your habits.
The things you do repeatedly define who you are. The key is repetition. We live in a culture that promotes instant gratification and the ephemerality of fads. Every month it seems there’s a new product, brand or app in style. Your individuality and integrity comes from transcending these shallow fads and developing long-term habits that will allow you to better understand yourself.
Habits are essentially patterns. If you’ve been biting your nails during every bout of anxiety you’ve had since you were a little kid, such a pattern is likely to continue until you decide to put a stop to it. If you smoke, overdrink, overeat, or curse too much, these habits will only persist as patterns until you make the conscious decision to override them.
This is why consistency is so important. Just as consistently bad habits are harmful, consistently good habits are remarkably beneficial. Exercising every day or every other day, eating something healthy with every meal and drinking water instead of processed drinks or booze are only a few positive habits that you should want to turn into long-term patterns in your life.
If you’ve realized you have many bad habits and just few good ones, you’re likely overwhelmed and don’t know where to start. Make incremental changes. Eat healthy, but have a few cheat days. Eventually, whittle down to one cheat day. Eventually, with conscious effort on your part, you’ll eat healthily and not even want to have a cheat day. If you smoke, cut down your daily consumption by one cigarette per week or something along those lines. Stay consistent and you’ll turn from a pack-a-day fiend to a non-smoker in less than 6 months.
I hate to say it all comes down to willpower, but it does. You are in control of the patterns of your behavior, and I implore you to take charge and assert positive habits over negative ones. It’s difficult to get rid of the indulgences and decadence that bad habits often consist of, but you’ll do it in time and look back proudly at your process of transformation. I’ve done it a few times, and I hope to continue on that path. Best of luck.